IT’S TIME WE LOVE OUR BLACK WOMAN PROPERLY
By: Myles Battle
In the bible there’s a verse that states, “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” Which implies, when a man truly matriculates into manhood and reaches a certain level of maturity, there’s certain things that we just simply shouldn’t do anymore. Things like an inability to maintain employment, or being financially irresponsible, or not being dependable, or not being trustworthy. My brothas, we are killing the black woman; literally and figuratively. We’re killing her emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. The relationship and connection between the black man and woman is on the precipice of irreparable damage and I truly believe it’s the black man’s job to rectify the trauma and calamity we’ve perpetuated on our beautiful black queens.
It’s unfathomable why black men continue to treat the black woman with blatant disrespect and disregard, considering that her love is tested, tried, and true. Nobody, I reiterate, NOBODY has stood ten toes down in the paint and loved the black man unconditionally with every fiber of their being and every molecule of their DNA like the black woman. Additionally, nobody has been more loyal with unwavering support, consistent encouragement, and had the black man’s back like the black woman. From the depths of hell as we endured the atrocities of slavery when our families were being torn apart, the black woman was there. As we fought for Civil Rights and equality in America, defeating the racist oppressive laws of Jim Crow, the black woman was there. When we started to achieve and benefit from the fruits of labor as we ascended to unprecedented heights professionally: lawyers, doctors, engineers, authors, scholars, educators, entertainers, athletes, and more; the black woman was there. She was there raising and educating our children, keeping our families together, praying God’s divine protection over us, supporting us every step of the way, and believing in our ability to achieve anything we put our minds to.
The murder and subsequent lack of justice and accountability for Breonna Taylor confirms the words of Malcolm X, “The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman.” Instead of doing everything in our power to emphatically defeat that narrative, black men have empowered and assisted the world in tearing down our queens. Striping them of their self-esteem, stomping on their confidence, eviscerating their self worth, and taking their love and loyalty for granted. There’s an entire community of broken black women due to the actions of a black man that she loved and trusted. And instead of reciprocating that love and trust, we decided to use and abuse her for our
sexual gratification simply because we could. It’s time we grow up and treat the black woman like the queen that she historically has proven herself to be. It’s time we lift her up on a pedestal as the Goddess of the earth and reciprocate the agape love she’s given us since we were created. It’s time we grow up and become MEN.